Going through a divorce is never easy but having a spouse file for divorce while you’re deployed can create an especially difficult set of circumstances. The following information provides some advice regarding what to do if this happens while you’re deployed.

Stay Focused

This is obviously a time of incredible stress. Staying calm and rational is absolutely necessary. Losing your temper and doing something rash will only make the situation worse in the long run. The process involving divorce takes time, usually several months or longer. Staying calm and focused on your job is an extremely important aspect of making sure the entire situation works out in the best manner possible.

Stay Connected

It’s important to stay connected with other family members and close friends during this time if at all possible. You’ll want the support and comfort that talking to those closest to you will provide. This may depend on where you’re stationed and how often you’re able to communicate with those back home. If there aren’t many people you can talk to or if communication opportunities are limited, find someone where you’re stationed to confide in.

Consider an Extension

As a service member you may be able to postpone the divorce until you are able to return to the United States. It’s possible in some cases to receive an extension of 90 days before you would even have to respond to the divorce petition. You would need to seek out professional guidance to see if and how you would be able to receive an extension.

Don’t Make Hasty Decisions

Most likely you’ll know if you want the divorce or want to try and save the marriage. Either way, there are important decisions to make and any missteps can damage the outcome. Making important decisions concerning property, finances, and child custody could prove detrimental if not well thought out. There are also benefits a former spouse may be entitled to. It’s also usually recommended not to sign anything unless you’ve consulted with a legal professional.

Consult an Attorney

Even if you’re not the one filing for divorce having legal representation is important. Find an attorney who not only has experience with divorce proceedings but with those involving military personnel. Seek out the guidance of superior officers when looking for advice on selecting an appropriate lawyer. There are certain protections provided for those in the service under the law. The Service Members Civil Relief Act is a federal law that was designed to protect service men and women from divorces and lawsuits so they can focus on their duties of defending the nation. How this law can protect and assist each individual service person may be different. An attorney trained in these areas should be consulted for assistance.

Following these few simple steps could ultimately make a big difference in the outcome of the divorce and affect your life for years to come. Make sure to seek out good advice, both personally and professionally.